The moment I accepted the job I could feel my confidence and self-belief around the success of my coaching business slipping away,
I knew it was the right thing to do at the time, but equally I let my external circumstances affect how I felt internally. It felt like a setback and that impacted my confidence and self-belief.
From this experience I took many lessons. In today’s blog I’m going to share with you how I was able to reconnect with my confidence after a setback and how you can too.
Reconnect with yourself
As high performance coach, Brendon Burchard, says ‘when you don’t have connection with yourself, confidence goes down’. When your motivation decreases so does your confidence.
A great way to reconnect with yourself is by locking in a regular and consistent morning routine. Away from social media, kids, partners, husbands / wives, family and friends. Just taking the time to reconnect with your thoughts and having the time to think will massively impact how you think and feel on a daily basis. It will change your perspective of your life and help you feel more confident.
Take the time to think and feel again. Process your emotions through meditation, journaling, visualisation or a morning walk. Just take the time to reconnect with yourself and your confidence. When you lock in and practice a good morning routine, you clear your mind and give yourself more time to connect with your authentic self.
Change your environment
Your environment and the people you surround yourself with have the power to shape your confidence. There’s always going to be people that will give you the gift of negative emotions. Such as anger, fear, resentment and judgement, for example. But you don’t have to accept these gifts. You don’t have to receive them in.
To help you reconnect with your confidence after a setback, the best thing you can do is surround yourself with positive people. Learn from positive people and create relationships with positive people. It will rub off on you, motivate you and support you with increasing your confidence.
Receive in the goodness you experience when you’re surrounded with positive people. Let that support you in bouncing back from a setback. Choose an environment and people that are going to lift you up, encourage and support you with your goals and dreams.
Be kind to yourself
When I took on a paid job and lost my confidence I was very hard on myself. I berated myself and saw myself as a failure. Looking back now I can see how that impacted my confidence even more. You wouldn’t be so hard on a young child if they had a setback, you’d encourage them to keep going. Do the same for yourself.
When you are compassionate towards yourself it will help you recognise your skills and strengths. Think about the advice you’d give to your friends if they were in your situation, then apply it to yourself. Being kind to yourself means being gentle towards yourself at times when you feel like being self-critical.
Practice being kind to yourself so you can reconnect with your confidence. Don’t let setbacks hold you back from reclaiming your self-belief. What kind words can you say to yourself today? What positives can you take from your experience?
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