We all carry with us the scars of our past experiences with core beliefs originating from our childhood experiences and have created meaning about the world from our family, peers and society.
These beliefs have become embedded in our subconscious mind which operates below our conscious awareness and controls our automatic processes and habits. It stores our memories, habits and emotions and it plays a role in shaping our beliefs and behaviours. Even though we’re not consciously aware of the workings of our subconscious mind, it’s important to understand that it has a powerful influence on our thoughts, feelings and actions.
Some wounds are more visible than others, but they can all impact our present and future in profound ways. For many people, the journey of healing their past is a brave decision that can be a long and challenging one, but it’s also one of the most rewarding and transformative experiences they can have. However, as with any journey, it’s important to approach it with caution.
First, it’s important to recognize that healing and transforming our past is not a quick fix. It takes time, real effort, and a lot of self-reflection. While it may be tempting to try to push past the pain and ignore it, this is not a healthy or effective approach.
When we give ourself permission to prioritise ourselves by healing the scars of our past, we empower others with our learnings and experiences. Healing our past requires us to courageously confront our feelings and memories head-on, which can be difficult and emotional but opens up great opportunities for transformation.
Second, it’s important to approach our past with compassion and self-forgiveness. Too often, people are critical of themselves for their past mistakes or hardships. This kind of self-blame only serves to perpetuate the cycle of pain and negativity.
Instead, try to view your past experiences with empathy, kindness and understanding. Recognize that you did the best you could with what you had at the time, and that you are a better person for having learned and grown from those experiences.
Third, be mindful of who you choose to share your story with. It’s important to have supportive people in your life who can offer encouragement and understanding, but it’s also important to be selective about who you trust with your most vulnerable moments. Be cautious of anyone who dismisses your feelings, or who tries to control or manipulate your healing process, this is your journey, not theirs.
Finally, don’t rush the healing process. Healing your past takes time and patience, and everyone’s journey is different. Trust yourself and your instincts, and don’t be afraid to seek out professional help if you need it. You may want to try different approaches and techniques before you find what works best for you, and that’s okay.
In conclusion, healing your past can be a life-changing experience, but it’s important to approach it with caution and self-care. Take your time, be gentle and kind to yourself, and remember that you are worthy of happiness and peace. With persistence and patience, you can overcome the challenges of your past and move forward with confidence and hope.